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Your mind, your voice and your body are powerful tools for prevention.[/ko] [ko][red]12.[/red] Teach your children, friends, parents and peers about the myths and realities of sexual assault.[/ko] [ko][red]13.[/red] Donate your time or money to your local rape crisis center.[/ko] [ko][red]14.[/red] Find out what your local K-12 school board’s policy is on anti-rape and violence prevention education and get involved. If it is not proactive, change it![/ko] [ko][red]15.[/red] Lobby your local, state and federal legislators for funding for anti-sexual assault programs.[/ko] ) ) ) ) ) [1] => Array ( [page_tab_header] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => images [images] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [image] => Array ( [id] => 3830 [alt] => [title] => resouces1 [caption] => [description] => [mime_type] => image/jpeg [url] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1.jpg [width] => 1280 [height] => 720 [sizes] => Array ( [thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-150x150.jpg [thumbnail-width] => 150 [thumbnail-height] => 150 [medium] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-300x169.jpg [medium-width] => 300 [medium-height] => 169 [large] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-1024x576.jpg [large-width] => 660 [large-height] => 371 [post-thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-825x510.jpg [post-thumbnail-width] => 825 [post-thumbnail-height] => 510 ) ) [image_for_smaller_displays] => Array ( [id] => 3831 [alt] => [title] => resources1 [caption] => [description] => [mime_type] => image/jpeg [url] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [width] => 640 [height] => 360 [sizes] => Array ( [thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1-150x150.jpg [thumbnail-width] => 150 [thumbnail-height] => 150 [medium] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1-300x169.jpg [medium-width] => 300 [medium-height] => 169 [large] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [large-width] => 640 [large-height] => 360 [post-thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [post-thumbnail-width] => 640 [post-thumbnail-height] => 360 ) ) [decal] => ) ) ) ) [page_tab_title] => Break it down [page_tab_sections] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [background_style] => Solid White [background_image] => [content] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => general_content [width] => one-thirds-width [content_title] => [text] => [hero-text]A sexual violence dictionary[/hero-text] ) [1] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => general_content [width] => two-thirds-width [content_title] => [text] => [red]Sexual Violence[/red] Any sexual activity that is forced or nonconsensual by means of psychological coercion or physical abuse. It includes all acts of sexual violence such as rape, forced sodomy, forced oral copulation, acts committed with foreign objects, sexual threats and intimidation, incest, sexual assault by intimate partners, child sexual abuse, human sexual trafficking, sexual harassment, street harassment and any other unwanted sexual activity. Sexual assault or rape can happen to anyone. People of any age, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or physical ability can experience sexual assault. [red]Rape[/red] Can be defined as forced sexual acts. In a legal proceeding or prosecution rape refers to vaginal penetration against one’s will. Rape is a widespread problem that negatively affects individuals, relationships, families and communities. [ko]Sexual assault or rape occurs when a person is forced, coerced or manipulated into participating in a sexual act to which she or he has not freely consented.[/ko] [red]Consent is[/red] [red]Consent is not[/red] [red]Respectful Sexuality[/red] Is how we honor ourselves and how we treat others. It is about having knowledge of all the risks and ramifications of engaging in sexual behavior and choosing a path that respects both parties involved. 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Similarly, only about 1 out of 4 arrests leads to a felony conviction and incarceration[/ko] (RAINN/Dept. of Justice) [ko][red]1 out of every 6[/red] American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime[/ko] (National Institute for Justice and Centers for Disease Control & Prevention) [ko][red]Half[/red] of female sexual assault victims were raped before age 18[/ko] (White House Report Rape & SA: A Renewed Call to Action) [ko][red]1 in 5[/red] women are sexually assaulted while in college[/ko] (White House Report Rape & SA: A Renewed Call to Action) [ko][red]17.7[/red] million American women have been victims of attempted or completed rape[/ko] (National Institute for Justice and Centers for Disease Control & Prevention) [ko][red]Every two minutes[/red], somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted[/ko] (RAINN-Dept. of justice) [ko][red]15,000-19,000[/red] people with developmental disabilities are raped each year in North America[/ko] (National center on domestic and sexual violence) [ko][red]1 in 6[/red] men have experienced abusive sexual experiences before the age of 18[/ko] (1in6.org) [ko][red]44%[/red] of sexual assault and rape victims are under the age of 18[/ko] (USDOJ) [ko]Victims of sexual assault are [red]3[/red] times more likely to suffer from depression, [red]6[/red] times more likely to suffer from PTSD, [red]13[/red] times more likely to abuse alcohol, [red]26[/red] times more likely to abuse drugs, and [red]4[/red] times more likely to contemplate suicide[/ko] (WHO) [ko]Almost [red]2/3[/red] of rapes are committed by someone known to the victim[/ko] (USDOJ) [ko][red]63%[/red] of men who admitted to campus rape/attempted rape say they committed an average of 6 rapes[/ko] (White House Report Rape & SA: A Renewed Call to Action) [ko][red]28%[/red] of male victims of rape experience their first rape when they were 10 years of age or younger[/ko] (CDC) [ko]Approximately [red]80%[/red] of female victims experienced their first rape before the age of 25[/ko] (CDC) [ko][red]Every four hours[/red] a rape is reported in the United States Armed Forces[/ko] (Military Rape Crisis Center) [ko][red]Women in the US Military[/red] are more likely to be raped by a fellow soldier in Iraq or Afghanistan than killed by enemy fire[/ko] (Military Rape Crisis Center) ) ) ) ) ) [3] => Array ( [page_tab_header] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => images [images] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [image] => Array ( [id] => 3830 [alt] => [title] => resouces1 [caption] => [description] => [mime_type] => image/jpeg [url] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1.jpg [width] => 1280 [height] => 720 [sizes] => Array ( [thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-150x150.jpg [thumbnail-width] => 150 [thumbnail-height] => 150 [medium] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-300x169.jpg [medium-width] => 300 [medium-height] => 169 [large] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-1024x576.jpg [large-width] => 660 [large-height] => 371 [post-thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-825x510.jpg [post-thumbnail-width] => 825 [post-thumbnail-height] => 510 ) ) [image_for_smaller_displays] => Array ( [id] => 3831 [alt] => [title] => resources1 [caption] => [description] => [mime_type] => image/jpeg [url] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [width] => 640 [height] => 360 [sizes] => Array ( [thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1-150x150.jpg [thumbnail-width] => 150 [thumbnail-height] => 150 [medium] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1-300x169.jpg [medium-width] => 300 [medium-height] => 169 [large] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [large-width] => 640 [large-height] => 360 [post-thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [post-thumbnail-width] => 640 [post-thumbnail-height] => 360 ) ) [decal] => ) ) ) ) [page_tab_title] => Common Misconceptions [page_tab_sections] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [background_style] => Solid White [background_image] => [content] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => general_content [width] => one-thirds-width [content_title] => [text] => [hero-text]Misconceptions, Realities & Productive Thinking[/hero-text] ) [1] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => general_content [width] => two-thirds-width [content_title] => [text] => [ko][red]1.[/red] Most rapes occur in a dark alley by a stranger.[/ko] [ko][red]Reality[/red][/ko] Most sexual assault survivors know the perpetrator. About 70% of female rape or sexual assault survivors state the offender was an intimate, other relative, a friend or an acquaintance (Bureau of Justice Statistics 2005). This includes classmates, coworkers, dates, neighbors, caretakers, family members, husbands and boyfriends. [ko][red]Productive Thinking[/red][/ko] “I realize that in addition to being aware of strangers, I must recognize that people I know may pose a potential threat to me as well. With prevention education. I can watch for signs that may place me at risk.” [ko][red]2.[/red] Rape is just ‘rough’ or ‘bad’ sex. What’s the big deal?[/ko] [ko][red]Reality[/red][/ko] Almost half of all survivors of rape are fearful of serious injury or death during a rape. Rape is a violent assault that is acted out sexually which affects an individual’s sense of safety and control. Rape survivors are nine times more likely than victims of other crimes to attempt suicide. [ko][red]Productive Thinking[/red][/ko] “Even though rape is acted out sexually, I must remember that it is a violation and is about power and control. It has potentially life changing effects and should be taken seriously.” [ko][red]3.[/red] Women ask to be raped because of the way they dress or act.[/ko] [ko][red]Reality[/red][/ko] This attitude holds survivors of sexual assault accountable for the violence perpetrated against them. No one asks or deserves to be raped. Rape does not happen in response to provocative clothing or behavior, rape happens because the perpetrator decides that his desires are more important than the victim’s right to self determination. A life free from sexual violence is a basic human right that should be accorded to all members of our society. [ko][red]Productive Thinking[/red][/ko] “Dressing in attractive ways or indicating to someone that you like them is not an invitation to be sexually violated.” [ko][red]4.[/red] It’s okay for a man to force a woman to have sex with him if she gets him turned on.[/ko] [ko][red]Reality[/red][/ko] This attitude holds survivors of sexual assault accountable for the violence perpetrated against them. No one asks or deserves to be raped. Rape does not happen in response to provocative clothing or behavior, rape happens because the perpetrator decides that his desires are more important than the victim’s right to self determination. A life free from sexual violence is a basic human right that should be accorded to all members of our society. [ko][red]Productive Thinking[/red][/ko] “Dressing in attractive ways or indicating to someone that you like them is not an invitation to be sexually violated.” [ko][red]5.[/red] Women only cry rape to get back at men they are mad at or because they don’t want to admit having sex.[/ko] [ko][red]Reality[/red][/ko] False rape charges are not frequently made. According to the Department of Justice, one in every 2.7 million heterosexual males will have a false claim made against them. [ko][red]Productive Thinking[/red][/ko] “Because of the way society treats rape victims, most people would not put themselves in a position to be ridiculed, demeaned, and subject to public scrutiny if it were not true.” [ko][red]6.[/red] Men can never be sexually assaulted.[/ko] [ko][red]Reality[/red][/ko] Men can be and are sexually assaulted. 1 in 6 men have experienced sexual violence before the age of 18. [ko][red]Productive Thinking[/red][/ko] “Anyone can be sexually assaulted. Women and men from the very young to the elderly; people of all ethnicities; socioeconomic levels; and all sexual orientations are sexually assaulted.” ) ) ) ) ) [4] => Array ( [page_tab_header] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => images [images] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [image] => Array ( [id] => 3830 [alt] => [title] => resouces1 [caption] => [description] => [mime_type] => image/jpeg [url] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1.jpg [width] => 1280 [height] => 720 [sizes] => Array ( [thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-150x150.jpg [thumbnail-width] => 150 [thumbnail-height] => 150 [medium] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-300x169.jpg [medium-width] => 300 [medium-height] => 169 [large] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-1024x576.jpg [large-width] => 660 [large-height] => 371 [post-thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resouces1-825x510.jpg [post-thumbnail-width] => 825 [post-thumbnail-height] => 510 ) ) [image_for_smaller_displays] => Array ( [id] => 3831 [alt] => [title] => resources1 [caption] => [description] => [mime_type] => image/jpeg [url] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [width] => 640 [height] => 360 [sizes] => Array ( [thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1-150x150.jpg [thumbnail-width] => 150 [thumbnail-height] => 150 [medium] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1-300x169.jpg [medium-width] => 300 [medium-height] => 169 [large] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [large-width] => 640 [large-height] => 360 [post-thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/resources1.jpg [post-thumbnail-width] => 640 [post-thumbnail-height] => 360 ) ) [decal] => ) ) ) ) [page_tab_title] => Healthy Sexuality [page_tab_sections] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [background_style] => Solid White [background_image] => [content] => Array ( [0] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => single_image_content [width] => one-thirds-width [image] => Array ( [id] => 4307 [alt] => [title] => healthy-sexuality [caption] => [description] => [mime_type] => image/png [url] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/healthy-sexuality.png [width] => 800 [height] => 800 [sizes] => Array ( [thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/healthy-sexuality-150x150.png [thumbnail-width] => 150 [thumbnail-height] => 150 [medium] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/healthy-sexuality-300x300.png [medium-width] => 300 [medium-height] => 300 [large] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/healthy-sexuality.png [large-width] => 660 [large-height] => 660 [post-thumbnail] => http://denimdayinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/healthy-sexuality-800x510.png [post-thumbnail-width] => 800 [post-thumbnail-height] => 510 ) ) ) [1] => Array ( [acf_fc_layout] => general_content [width] => two-thirds-width [content_title] => [text] => [ko]Sexuality is complicated; there are many factors to consider. 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15 Ways

Begin to Stop Rape today!

1. Recognize that people neither ask for nor deserve to be raped—ever.

2. Support and believe survivors of sexual violence.

3. Speak up and challenge victim-blaming statements.

4. Challenge comments or jokes that perpetuate rape culture or sexism.

5. Take action by directly intervening or getting help if you see someone about to engage in sexual activity with someone who is not capable of giving consent.

6. Educate yourself on affirmative consent.

7. Know that consent is mandatory and every sexual interaction you have must embody principles of consent.

8. Build and engage in healthy, respectful relationships.

9. Pledge to never commit or condone any acts of violence.

10. Think critically about how the media depicts sexuality.

11. Take a self-defense class. Your mind, your voice and your body are powerful tools for prevention.

12. Teach your children, friends, parents and peers about the myths and realities of sexual assault.

13. Donate your time or money to your local rape crisis center.

14. Find out what your local K-12 school board’s policy is on anti-rape and violence prevention education and get involved. If it is not proactive, change it!

15. Lobby your local, state and federal legislators for funding for anti-sexual assault programs.


Break it down

A sexual violence dictionary

Sexual Violence
Any sexual activity that is forced or nonconsensual by means of psychological coercion or physical abuse. It includes all acts of sexual violence such as rape, forced sodomy, forced oral copulation, acts committed with foreign objects, sexual threats and intimidation, incest, sexual assault by intimate partners, child sexual abuse, human sexual trafficking, sexual harassment, street harassment and any other unwanted sexual activity. Sexual assault or rape can happen to anyone. People of any age, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or physical ability can experience sexual assault.

Rape
Can be defined as forced sexual acts. In a legal proceeding or prosecution rape refers to vaginal penetration against one’s will. Rape is a widespread problem that negatively affects individuals, relationships, families and communities.

Sexual assault or rape occurs when a person is forced, coerced or manipulated into participating in a sexual act to which she or he has not freely consented.

Consent is


  • Willing participation

  • Based on choice

  • Active, not passive

  • Based on equal power

Consent is not


  • Agreeing or giving in to sex because of fear or threats

  • Going along in order to gain approval


Respectful Sexuality
Is how we honor ourselves and how we treat others. It is about having knowledge of all the risks and ramifications of engaging in sexual behavior and choosing a path that respects both parties involved. Consent and communication are essential to respectful sexuality.

DID YOU KNOW?

Sexual Violence Statistics

Nearly 1 in 5 women in a national survey say they have been raped
(CDC)

1 in 10 women have been raped by their boyfriend or husband
(CDC)

82% of rapes committed by an intimate are not reported to the police
(RAINN-Dept. of justice)

Only 3 out of every 100 rapists will ever spend a single day in prison
(RAINN/Dept. of Justice)

The majority (54%) of rapes are still not reported
(RAINN/Dept. of Justice)

Only about 1 out of 4 reported rapes leads to an arrest. Similarly, only about 1 out of 4 arrests leads to a felony conviction and incarceration
(RAINN/Dept. of Justice)

1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime
(National Institute for Justice and Centers for Disease Control & Prevention)

Half of female sexual assault victims were raped before age 18
(White House Report Rape & SA: A Renewed Call to Action)

1 in 5 women are sexually assaulted while in college
(White House Report Rape & SA: A Renewed Call to Action)

17.7 million American women have been victims of attempted or completed rape
(National Institute for Justice and Centers for Disease Control & Prevention)

Every two minutes, somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted
(RAINN-Dept. of justice)

15,000-19,000 people with developmental disabilities are raped each year in North America
(National center on domestic and sexual violence)

1 in 6 men have experienced abusive sexual experiences before the age of 18
(1in6.org)

44% of sexual assault and rape victims are under the age of 18
(USDOJ)

Victims of sexual assault are 3 times more likely to suffer from depression, 6 times more likely to suffer from PTSD, 13 times more likely to abuse alcohol, 26 times more likely to abuse drugs, and 4 times more likely to contemplate suicide
(WHO)

Almost 2/3 of rapes are committed by someone known to the victim
(USDOJ)

63% of men who admitted to campus rape/attempted rape say they committed an average of 6 rapes
(White House Report Rape & SA: A Renewed Call to Action)

28% of male victims of rape experience their first rape when they were 10 years of age or younger
(CDC)

Approximately 80% of female victims experienced their first rape before the age of 25
(CDC)

Every four hours a rape is reported in the United States Armed Forces
(Military Rape Crisis Center)

Women in the US Military are more likely to be raped by a fellow soldier in Iraq or Afghanistan than killed by enemy fire
(Military Rape Crisis Center)

Common Misconceptions

Misconceptions, Realities & Productive Thinking

1. Most rapes occur in a dark alley by a stranger.

Reality
Most sexual assault survivors know the perpetrator. About 70% of female rape or sexual assault survivors state the offender was an intimate, other relative, a friend or an acquaintance (Bureau of Justice Statistics 2005). This includes classmates, coworkers, dates, neighbors, caretakers, family members, husbands and boyfriends.

Productive Thinking
“I realize that in addition to being aware of strangers, I must recognize that people I know may pose a potential threat to me as well. With prevention education. I can watch for signs that may place me
at risk.”


2. Rape is just ‘rough’ or ‘bad’ sex. What’s the big deal?

Reality
Almost half of all survivors of rape are fearful of serious injury or death during a rape. Rape is a violent assault that is acted out sexually which affects an individual’s sense of safety and control. Rape survivors are nine times more likely than victims of other crimes to attempt suicide.

Productive Thinking
“Even though rape is acted out sexually, I must remember that it is a violation and is about power and control. It has potentially life changing effects and should be taken seriously.”


3. Women ask to be raped because of the way they dress or act.

Reality
This attitude holds survivors of sexual assault accountable for the violence perpetrated against them. No one asks or deserves to be raped. Rape does not happen in response to provocative clothing or behavior, rape happens because the perpetrator decides that his desires are more important than the victim’s right to self determination. A life free from sexual violence is a basic human right that should be accorded to all members of our society.

Productive Thinking
“Dressing in attractive ways or indicating to someone that you like them is not an invitation to be sexually violated.”


4. It’s okay for a man to force a woman to have sex with him if she gets him turned on.

Reality
This attitude holds survivors of sexual assault accountable for the violence perpetrated against them. No one asks or deserves to be raped. Rape does not happen in response to provocative clothing or behavior, rape happens because the perpetrator decides that his desires are more important than the victim’s right to self determination. A life free from sexual violence is a basic human right that should be accorded to all members of our society.

Productive Thinking
“Dressing in attractive ways or indicating to someone that you like them is not an invitation to be sexually violated.”


5. Women only cry rape to get back at men they are mad at or because they don’t want to admit having sex.

Reality
False rape charges are not frequently made. According to the Department of Justice, one in every 2.7 million heterosexual males will have a false claim made against them.

Productive Thinking
“Because of the way society treats rape victims, most people would not put themselves in a position to be ridiculed, demeaned, and subject to public scrutiny if it were not true.”

6. Men can never be sexually assaulted.

Reality
Men can be and are sexually assaulted. 1 in 6 men have experienced sexual violence before the age of 18.

Productive Thinking
“Anyone can be sexually assaulted. Women and men from the very young to the elderly; people of all ethnicities; socioeconomic levels; and all sexual orientations are sexually assaulted.”

Healthy Sexuality

Sexuality is complicated; there are many factors to consider. Often people aren’t completely aware of what healthy sexuality means. The wheel helps to describe some of the traits we see in healthy sexuality and healthy relationships.

Intimacy


  • Feeling of closeness

  • Kindness, consideration, appreciation and support

  • Takes time to build

Self-Determination


  • Ability to control one’s decisions without interference

  • Ability to make sexual decisions without pressure or influence

Consent


  • Willing participation

  • Free from intimidation, manipulation, or fear

  • Active process that involves choice

Trust


  • Knowing that your partner is being honest

  • Knowing that you can be honest with your partner

  • Feeling safe and confident that your partner will respect your decisions

Mutuality


  • Shared experience of commitment and intimacy

  • Inclusive decision-making process

  • Reciprocal and reciprocated

Honesty


  • Being truthful about past sexual experiences and current relationship status

  • Informing partner of sexually transmitted infections

  • Being truthful about relationship intentions

Communication


  • Open exchange of information between individuals

  • Two-way street -- involves listening and responding

  • Open communication that increases connection

Respect


  • Acknowledge our own and our partner’s inherent value

  • Hold others in high esteem

  • Act in a manner that contributes to the well being of everyone

Adapted from the Power and Control Wheel, developed at the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project in Duluth, Minnesota.